Congratulations Barbara! What a lovely surprise.

Hope your pregnancy goes well. Loved being pregnant myself, even through five months of morning sickness. There's no other feeling like it, having another human being growing inside of you.

Please keep updating your readers with news of how thing's are going.

 

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Aw congratulations!! I'm so happy for you!!! That is great news. I'm sorry the father couldn't be better about it but men are like that sometimes. I know you will be an amazing mom! You are so caring of your kitties and love things them to death. You will be amazing with your child as well :)

Did you know I'm pregnant too? Im due December 29th so not even a couple weeks ahead of you. We can be prego budddies :) I'm 14 weeks and 1 day today.

 

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aaww this post made me all emotional! I became much more emotional AFTER having babies.

Being pregant is awesome! Sooo happy for you. And you're right...you have tonnes of support!

Jas

 

I am 35 and pregnant and the child's father and I are fighting to a huge and almost nonnegotiable degree. We are on the verge of ending the relationship. I am beyond hormonal because of the things we have been going through in this relationship. He was initially upset that I was pregnant and in the last two months of our 5 month pregnancy he has been on board. He has lost his job, is now staying with his brother and does not have transportation. And to top it all off he has been communicating with his ex. I am beyond tired. Not just in regards to the exhaustion that comes from being pregnant but the emotional stressors of the relationship and our uncertain future. The arguments have resulted to us being here at the verge of ending this relationship for good but I am not sure about what the boundaries should be. I never wanted to do this by myself and the reality that I will really scares me. However the ex factor and his current financial, housing and transportation status is not giving me any reason to stay. I can only count on me. I have a supportive network and family. But in the middle of the night it will be me and my baby. I did not sign up to be a single mother but its looking like that is my fate.

 

Anon, I feel for you sweetheart.

I didn't plan to get pregnant, it happened though, and the father-to-be (my ex) was not at all happy. I am WAY better off and SAFER without him around, and so will my baby be too.

I know it will be hard to do it alone, but women do it all the time, because "guys" can't handle the idea of a baby.

I regret that my baby's genetic father isn't a real man. But like I said this wasn't planned and the fact I got pregnant at all is a miracle. So I am blessed in that respect.

It would, however, be nice to have the comfort of a real "man" in my life to help me through this. There is such a big difference between "guys" and "men".

In typical fashion, in my life, I have always had to be strong and do it on my own, so this is no different. I know I will be a great mom.

I am sure you will find the path that is best for you, and your baby. Congrats to you, and try not to stress too much. I know it's hard with everything you are going through, but just reassure yourself that you can do this.

 

Barbara- your blog is so timely and relevant. I also just got the shocking news of getting pregnant by a man I just started seeing. It was totally unplanned and now I am scared of the fact of having to possibly do it alone. Do I pull him in - he wants me to abort, but I can't think of it. This may be my only chance to have a child. I am a career woman who always did it and succeeded by herself.

I am 6 weeks so I have a long way to go. But I have to make so many decision, lifestyle changes etc. Will I manage, will I be judged, how shall I tell my (very catholic & conservative) parents who are all the way in Europe? I am so confused. I just wish to have the father help me go through this, but I am not even in love with him. Not sure how to handle - I am hoping that like you, I will have a supportive network of friends.

Any advice, ideas will be very appreciated.

 

Anon,

First off, I take from what you wrote you have decided to keep the baby. Congrats.

The genetic father of my baby wanted me to abort too, he wished for a miscarriage. Said it would ruin his life.

So I told him I didn't need him. Which I don't. He would just cause problems and stress which I do not need at this time.

If you don't financially need him, or emotionally or in any way, and he doesn't want to be a part of it, there is no sense forcing fatherhood on him.

If you aren't in love, and not serious, that is a lot of pressure to put on him. I know you feel alone and need someone to turn to, and feel he should be there for you, but if he isn't you need to build a circle of people who will be there for you.

As for your parents, and the possibilities of people judging you, well, people will always judge you. In the end YOU have to be happy with yourself and confident with who you are. If you aren't ashamed (you should not be ashamed) then do not allow others to make you feel bad.

In time your parents will just fall in love with your baby, and forget the business of who or how it happened. That new life will be amazing.

Best of luck.

 

I have a research opportunity for new moms and I was wondering if you could help us advertise. I have included the information below:

University of British Columbia
School of Population and Public Health
Faculty of Medicine
5804 Fairview Ave
Vancouver, BC V6T 1Z3


Perinatal Mental Health Study

The first weeks after giving birth can be overwhelming... We want to hear about your pregnancy and your experiences during the first few weeks after giving birth.

Who is conducting the study?
We are UBC researchers conducting research on women’s health. Dr. Patti Janssen is a nurse and epidemiologist. Dr. Sarah Desmarais is a forensic psychologist.

What is the study about?
We are interested in finding out more about some of the factors that may affect women’s mental health and well-being during the first weeks after giving birth.

Who is funding the study?
The study is funded by the BC Mental Health and Addictions Research Network.

Who can participate?
If you have given birth within the past 3 months, you are eligible to participate in this study.

What is involved?
• You will participate in one interview (~45 minutes).
• The interview will be conducted at a location and time of your choice.
• You will receive $20 for your participation.

Who would know that I participated?
• Your privacy will be maintained at all times.
• We will never share any information you give us with anyone without your permission.
• Any information you give us will not be part of your hospital record.
• You will not be identified by name in any materials.

How can I find out more?
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